If you need to ask, "Is it OK to .... Can I bring my ....Will it look bad if I .... ???? No, no, and NO. Certain rules are absolute. Many are flexible and are applied according to the circumstance and people involved. If you think it might look bad, don't pretend you aren't sure. When you ask if something will look bad, you are really just asking for permission to do it anyway.
For instance; It is never okay to be rude. Don't say something mean and hurt someone's feelings. Why do people still need to be told this? Do your best to make the people you are with feel comfortable. That needs to be repeated. It seems to have gotten lost altogether. Do your best to make the people you are with feel comfortable. Even people you aren't with, but just in proximity to. Don't be so loud in a restaurant that the people at nearby tables can only hear you, and not each other. In general do not be loud anywhere. Except at a concert. If you need to dance around whilst smashing into total strangers, the mosh pit is the place for you. Otherwise, give everyone some space between your body and theirs. Apply this rule when standing on lines—every line, everywhere. Do not deceive yourself into thinking your turn will come much faster if your exhalations rustle the tiny hairs on the back of the neck of the person in front of you. She's trying to be patient too, and she's giving the person in front of her plenty of breathing room.
Do not discuss an event in front of someone who isn't invited. This applies to both before and after the event. So, suppose you are person B. You have declined the wedding invitation given by person A. Then a year later you accept an invitation to the wedding of person C. Should you then proceed to take every opportunity to tell person A —who was not invited to the wedding of person C—all the details about the arrangements, and travel plans for the event beforehand? Should you, person B, keep person A stuck on the phone while you describe details about the event afterward? In multiple phone conversations? As if something else just reminded you of another thing about person C's wedding that you need to share a catty comment about?
For instance; It is never okay to be rude. Don't say something mean and hurt someone's feelings. Why do people still need to be told this? Do your best to make the people you are with feel comfortable. That needs to be repeated. It seems to have gotten lost altogether. Do your best to make the people you are with feel comfortable. Even people you aren't with, but just in proximity to. Don't be so loud in a restaurant that the people at nearby tables can only hear you, and not each other. In general do not be loud anywhere. Except at a concert. If you need to dance around whilst smashing into total strangers, the mosh pit is the place for you. Otherwise, give everyone some space between your body and theirs. Apply this rule when standing on lines—every line, everywhere. Do not deceive yourself into thinking your turn will come much faster if your exhalations rustle the tiny hairs on the back of the neck of the person in front of you. She's trying to be patient too, and she's giving the person in front of her plenty of breathing room.
Do not discuss an event in front of someone who isn't invited. This applies to both before and after the event. So, suppose you are person B. You have declined the wedding invitation given by person A. Then a year later you accept an invitation to the wedding of person C. Should you then proceed to take every opportunity to tell person A —who was not invited to the wedding of person C—all the details about the arrangements, and travel plans for the event beforehand? Should you, person B, keep person A stuck on the phone while you describe details about the event afterward? In multiple phone conversations? As if something else just reminded you of another thing about person C's wedding that you need to share a catty comment about?
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